Fights break up a family… How do you avoid them?



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They cannot be avoided.They can be solved by talking and compromising.

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You don't have to avoid them by coming to a compromise during quarrels!

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Quarrels cannot be avoided. You have to learn how to react to them correctly and try to find the reasons for them and eliminate them as much as possible. The best thing in a quarrel is reconciliation.

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Respect each other not to enter into an argument when you see that your half is not in spirit. It's better to wait it out or better yet hug and kiss.

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Quarrels - not only that you can not avoid them, they should not be avoided. You just have to fight properly. should be a culture of quarrels - do not beat below the belt does not remember what happened four years ago, only what all the fuss. And be sure to take note of what was your partner's discontent. So that the next day you won't repeat your own mistakes.

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is no way to avoid quarrels, but you can always find a compromise! The main thing is to learn to give in and not to quarrel over trifles! I think people can not quarrel at all we are all very different and can not look at everything in the world in the same way so we swear. We have to make up in time. I know the following experience: a young man argues with a girl in the evening, she hisses at him and he goes to bed quietly and wakes up in the morning in a wonderful mood and the first to make up with her. I honestly envy him. everyone would have such stamina!

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Find a common enemy! Like in the joke: - Guys, who are you friends against? All dangerous conversations can then be translated into a common hatred!

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Without quarrels will not work. If you avoid the disrespectful transition to personality shouting manipulation pressure, etc. I usually calmly ask why a person insists on his opinion and explain his reasons. A reasonable person would hear.

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themomu unreal.Avoid.when you live with a person under one roof.and know about him.all.etc. it seems to me.unreal.generally.you can only dampen them for a time.and all!

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The problems around us in life are problems within us. We basically quarrel because we can't look at the situation through the eyes of the one we're talking to. And immediately give a subjective assessment without trying to understand the essence of his spouse. In general, in order to avoid quarrels must be very tolerant and strong in real love LOVE - but the words do not work. Family life is a constant and every second work on self-education, improvement and development of interpersonal relationships. And all that other crap. Just try to understand each other and at least respect each other's personality.

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Avoid quarrels hushed up resentment and pretending that nothing happened is harmful - negative emotions can not be stored inside. Otherwise, they then burst like an avalanche that can not be stopped. So I agree with Xenia - she wrote in detail and competently about the culture of quarrels. From myself I would add: when I find out relations with loved one is trying not to skip to high tones and the more so on the squeal. Scientists have found that men perceive a shrill tone in a conversation as an irritant and begin to think only about one thing:: When at last these nasty noises will stop?

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With a son as horrible as your NIKITA, you can't avoid fighting-

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They showed us English long-livers who have been married for 70 years. They say every day they argue, fight, find out.Yes, quarrels destroy us and families. If the cause is alcoholism and drug addiction - then you have to eliminate them first. If the life has tormented, blunted feelings and other routine, then tell me about my acquaintances. The best scenario is when both realize that the cart has gone downhill and it's not a buzzkill. If there is contact, it is possible to agree in a thoughtful discussion post factum that both should strive for reconciliation. Do not cling to each other! Especially since a woman is a very flexible creature and is given her immeasurable strength - weakness One acquaintances in their early years agreed that ANY contentious issues will be resolved only the next day, when the ardor subsides. It works for them. Another acquaintance quenches the ardor of a feisty spouse with sex. At first she was astonished, since we are in a quarrel: - Then she separated the flies from the cutlets, as a result, she got used to it. And then she sleeps in his armpit till morning. And in the morning yesterday seems insignificant. There's another couple, each of them has their second marriage. She is English, he is Czech. They get acquainted, explain themselves on their fingers, get married. At first it was ridiculous to argue without understanding the language. And then they specifically moved to Düsseldorf and speak only German! It's not very easy to get along in a foreign language. I tell my dearest he is an energy vampire right away: you're not going to drag me into stupid bickering! There's a problem - outline it clearly, tell me what you want and how to do it. And I'll tell you briefly what I see as a compromise. If you can't discuss it now, we'll talk later. But I won't let you make me mad and not drink my blood.

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Make concessions.

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The question with any conflict is: do you want to be right or happy?

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Or strengthen. After all, only in an argument read quarrel do you find the truth and the true face of your partner. Of course, if my husband takes away the visa card at every quarrel, it is a method to show his privilege over me. Backlash - I found a job that pays well enough. He stopped. Now we fight because he's sloppy. You're a sniffer in the nose and he spitefully shakes off the ashes on the floor. I invited his friends over and shat on him in front of everybody. It helped. That's how we have fun.

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Quarrels and scandals can be avoided! At least the big ones. And no compromises! In a family one is always the leader and the other the master. When someone tries to level the playing field, there are quarrels. It's very simple. First of all we are talking about mutual respect! And how many years have you been married? This is also not an unimportant aspect. Do you have children?

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BOTH partners need to realize that quarrels ruin the family. It's better to spend that time doing what you love. Don't bother your partner, don't pester her and she will reciprocate.

 

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