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Maybe I can get a normal explanation in this category - why is my mom so old-fashioned? and got a better answer
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You know, you'd be surprised, but she's got a point. The point is that she's referring to the promiscuity of young people in this matter. It's really out of the question, the way it is now. They fuck, sorry. They forget about feelings. Your mother is a stickler for sensual relationships rather than carnal. I can hardly explain it in a nutshell. It is necessary to live and feel it.It does not mean, of course, that one should not sleep before marriage, but you should do it not when the natural attraction, and when you understand that you really want to be with this man and no one else is needed.In fact there is a lot to think about this subject, not enough space.You try to listen, mother wishes you well, and do what you think is right?
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You know it'll surprise you, but she's right about something. She's referring to the promiscuity of young people in this matter. It's really out of the question. Fucking, sorry. They've completely forgotten about feelings. Your mother is for sensual relationships rather than carnal ones. It's hard to explain in a few words. It is necessary to live and feel.It does not mean of course that you should not sleep together before marriage, but you have to do it not when the natural attraction and when you understand that you really want to be with this man and no one else is needed.Actually much can ponder on this subject space is not enough.You try to listen to my mother wishes you well and do what you think is right.
You know it'll surprise you, but she's right about something. She's referring to the promiscuity of young people in this matter. It's really out of the question. Fucking, sorry. They've completely forgotten about feelings. Your mother is for sensual relationships rather than carnal ones. It's hard to explain in a few words. It is necessary to live and feel.It does not mean of course that you should not sleep together before marriage, but you have to do it not when the natural attraction and when you understand that you really want to be with this man and no one else is needed.Actually much can ponder on this subject space is not enough.You try to listen to my mother wishes you well and do what you think is right.
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mother is a happy woman. All grown up and she believes in miracles.
mother is a happy woman. All grown up and she believes in miracles.
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zhivem mi v raznjie vremena: otvet prost,vospitanie i vse
zhivem mi v raznjie vremena: otvet prost,vospitanie i vse
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You need to be able to talk to your mom and convince her I taught my mom to change her mind and now she is the best mom and the most modern one
You need to be able to talk to your mom and convince her I taught my mom to change her mind and now she is the best mom and the most modern one
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Same situation. I try not to talk to her about sensitive topics. And why convince a man of something when he's carried the exact opposite point of view through his life? It's just useless.
Same situation. I try not to talk to her about sensitive topics. And why convince a man of something when he's carried the exact opposite point of view through his life? It's just useless.
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she's right about something, by the way. but it's not so categorical, and you're probably too hot and young to agree with your mother's sab-solutist position.
she's right about something, by the way. but it's not so categorical, and you're probably too hot and young to agree with your mother's sab-solutist position.
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these are her ideas about life and she's right to some extent. i think she's worried about the other extreme which is often found in the relationships you describe.
these are her ideas about life and she's right to some extent. i think she's worried about the other extreme which is often found in the relationships you describe.
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ignore it. your mom is entitled to her opinion too. try not to upset her by talking like that. if it comes to a specific situation, firmly explain your position and tell her that your boyfriend loves and appreciates you so you want to live with him but don't want to get married so quickly you should think it over, etc.
ignore it. your mom is entitled to her opinion too. try not to upset her by talking like that. if it comes to a specific situation, firmly explain your position and tell her that your boyfriend loves and appreciates you so you want to live with him but don't want to get married so quickly you should think it over, etc.
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I think you are absolutely right.Until you try what to what not to learn a man beforehand while he is still at will without a stamp in the passport nothing to start a serious family life.
I think you are absolutely right.Until you try what to what not to learn a man beforehand while he is still at will without a stamp in the passport nothing to start a serious family life.
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I guess most moms are so old-fashioned. And my mom is no exception. Instead of trying to dissuade her, try not to hurt her feelings. And do what you think is right.
I guess most moms are so old-fashioned. And my mom is no exception. Instead of trying to dissuade her, try not to hurt her feelings. And do what you think is right.
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Don't call normal morality naive. Fornication is fornication in whatever modern garb you dress it up in and justify it. A woman who has known two men will not stop at the second.
Don't call normal morality naive. Fornication is fornication in whatever modern garb you dress it up in and justify it. A woman who has known two men will not stop at the second.
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The times. Mama's an old-time fixture, and you're just living in the present!
The times. Mama's an old-time fixture, and you're just living in the present!
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And how old are you? You are probably already able to make serious decisions, so make them! And to your mom, tell her that it is your life and you will live it the way you want and you will learn from your mistakes!
And how old are you? You are probably already able to make serious decisions, so make them! And to your mom, tell her that it is your life and you will live it the way you want and you will learn from your mistakes!
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Don't try to tell her anything. She was raised that way, she was born at a time when her husband could be frightened by a comrade's court. Just try not to tell her all the details of your life, even though it's not nice to lie. I did, and then she was convinced by the example of others that I was right, and now she understands me completely.
Don't try to tell her anything. She was raised that way, she was born at a time when her husband could be frightened by a comrade's court. Just try not to tell her all the details of your life, even though it's not nice to lie. I did, and then she was convinced by the example of others that I was right, and now she understands me completely.
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Your mother was brought up in another patriarchal society where only a virgin was considered a decent girl. I completely agree with you that your mother's views are fundamentally outdated. But to change her mind will never be possible Just love her as she is, because she loves you with all your faults:
Your mother was brought up in another patriarchal society where only a virgin was considered a decent girl. I completely agree with you that your mother's views are fundamentally outdated. But to change her mind will never be possible Just love her as she is, because she loves you with all your faults:
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Nu u kazdogo svoe mnenie.luchshe voobche ne zatragivatj togda takie temi- nervi krepche ostanutsja!
Nu u kazdogo svoe mnenie.luchshe voobche ne zatragivatj togda takie temi- nervi krepche ostanutsja!
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I would never marry any of my ex-boyfriends because I knew enough good and not so good about them. And I married a complete stranger and the fact that I knew nothing about him did not make our married life negative. I just took my mother's advice. Thank you mom or I would have stayed an old maid with my principles.
I would never marry any of my ex-boyfriends because I knew enough good and not so good about them. And I married a complete stranger and the fact that I knew nothing about him did not make our married life negative. I just took my mother's advice. Thank you mom or I would have stayed an old maid with my principles.
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It's easier for you, you're a new-formation person mom is a renaissance person and it's very hard for her to understand how it is to live outside of marriage with a man. Our children will be even simpler, even more uninhibited.
It's easier for you, you're a new-formation person mom is a renaissance person and it's very hard for her to understand how it is to live outside of marriage with a man. Our children will be even simpler, even more uninhibited.
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She loves you and is afraid for you life has changed and very much, but she believes that these changes are not for the better try to imagine yourself in her place, maybe then it will be easier to explain to her your views may come to a common denominator.
She loves you and is afraid for you life has changed and very much, but she believes that these changes are not for the better try to imagine yourself in her place, maybe then it will be easier to explain to her your views may come to a common denominator.