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What to do in this situation? and got a better answer
Response from Антон Владимирович[+++++]
Go up to your mom or dad and calmly say: So I don't have to take glycine, pay attention to me. Even now. I want us to have a trusting relationship. Do you know what happens to children who are constantly judged and compared to other children? Let's make it a rule not to raise our voices at each other. If we don't try to change, we'll keep fighting, and I don't want that. It's very hard for me to talk about it. I hope you'll understand what I'm saying?
Go up to your mom or dad and calmly say: So I don't have to take glycine, pay attention to me. Even now. I want us to have a trusting relationship. You know what happens to kids who are constantly judged and compared to other kids? Let's make it a rule not to raise our voices at each other. If we don't try to change, we'll keep fighting, and I don't want that. It is very hard for me to talk about it. I hope you'll understand what I'm saying.
Ask your parents not to talk like this and try to change. It will not help Ask your Mom and Dad why they treat you this way.
Can you tell me how old you are what you do and how old your brother is and what he does where he goes to school and what his profession is? Wouldn't it be easier?
They seem to love him more than they love you. It can happen. I'm sorry to hear that. There's nothing you can do about it. You're not the cause at all.
All that you have written here and what worries you, write down on a piece of paper and memorize. Then in a calm atmosphere in a calm tone brewed all the tea say: Dear Mom and Dad I need you to talk seriously I do not understand why to me this attitude because I also your daughter I love you and do not want to live in constant gratuitous quarrels and.went to talk
Yes it is common to compare one child to another. Don't even take it personally it is the lot of unthinking people. It is easier for them to say the banal phrase "your brother was better than to motivate their dissatisfaction with you. It's okay they love you, just these commonplace stereotypes have stuck in the brains of people of the older generation and do not bother with the topic of a bad girl. You're not bad, you're no worse than your brother, those are just words.
Your parents have a pattern of upbringing they have always compared and will continue to compare you will not be able to change it.
them if they know that everyone is different and if they think that comparisons will improve your relationships or your behaviour.
If you've had this attitude from your early childhood, what can you do now to get them to like and respect you! After all, you really want that, is that what they want? Maybe it is convenient for them, they found someone to get off on, and they don't care if you are not their daughter. They can't praise you at least once for something, tell you how good you are, how good you are! Or just come up for a hug and say that even though you and your brother are different, you are each a favorite to them. You don't have to compare, because not everyone is born with the same interests and personalities. And if they do soothe you with glycine, it's because they don't want to admit that at one time they didn't help you become what they wanted you to be. Gaps in parenting take their toll and whether they want them to or not, it's all their own fault.
Glycine is the most harmless thing everyone drinks now. But sometimes I would advise compote with bromine for some teenagers.
Be yourself. Personal experience. My son was, wonderful, my sister a miracle. But they didn't let me go far from them and I was always there for them in difficult moments of illness. Time will tell.