The author posted a question in Family
what to say to the father who ditched me when I was 5? Now I'm 28: Send him away at once?: Maybe dementia for old age? and got a better answer
Response from Антон Владимирович[+++++]
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Life is complicated and unpredictable and you don't know what's gonna happen to you tomorrow No matter how you slice it, he gave you this life. Just think with your head.
Life is complicated and unpredictable and you don't know what's gonna happen to you tomorrow No matter how you slice it, he gave you this life. Just think with your head.
Response from 0[+++++]
What does the father want now? You don't have to send him away right away. You can listen - and give your opinion.
What does the father want now? You don't have to send him away right away. You can listen - and give your opinion.
Response from 0[++]
Is he going to give you an apartment? If he wanted to help, he would have found a way. Let's just say he's grown up. You can always send him away. Listen. Listen carefully. Don't hesitate to ask adult questions about the case. Exactly what has he come for? If he came to beg, tell him that you have his genetics, you may realize by his age that it was not necessary, otherwise. But that will be after about 23 years.Don't refuse money if he offers. You don't need it? The people who raised you do. Do not believe that his mother did not want him to help, not to see his child, do not believe the irresistible obstacles of a scout behind enemy lines, a prisoner without the right to communicate with the outside world. Real men don't look for excuses for inaction, they find ways.
Is he going to give you an apartment? If he wanted to help, he would have found a way. Let's just say he's grown up. You can always send him away. Listen. Listen carefully. Don't hesitate to ask adult questions about the case. Exactly what has he come for? If he came to beg, tell him that you have his genetics, you may realize by his age that it was not necessary, otherwise. But that will be after about 23 years.Don't refuse money if he offers. You don't need it? The people who raised you do. Do not believe that his mother did not want him to help, not to see his child, do not believe the irresistible obstacles of a scout behind enemy lines, a prisoner without the right to communicate with the outside world. Real men don't look for excuses for inaction, they find ways.
Response from 0[+++++]
But you are no longer young, but a middle-aged woman; so learn to understand old age; it won't be long before you are old: the age of women is short.
But you are no longer young, but a middle-aged woman; so learn to understand old age; it won't be long before you are old: the age of women is short.
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What happened? Do we have to guess? Well, he left at age 5, so what? Why are you suddenly so interested in his mental health? And what are the circumstances under which you were going to answer him? Once upon a time, all of a sudden, zap! I'll answer my father! I'll send him away! Is that it? You seem to have the same diagnosis in your family. Twenty-eight years old makes you smile.
What happened? Do we have to guess? Well, he left at age 5, so what? Why are you suddenly so interested in his mental health? And what are the circumstances under which you were going to answer him? Once upon a time, all of a sudden, zap! I'll answer my father! I'll send him away! Is that it? You seem to have the same diagnosis in your family. Twenty-eight years old makes you smile.
Response from 0[+++++]
It's up to you and only you. If you start communicating with him, it can have a big impact on the rest of your life. It can even turn your life upside down. Don't underestimate the situation. I partially agree with Lily White. What can he give you? If he gives you an apartment, that's more or less. More likely he's going to rub it in, and then get on your nerves. And all of your childhood traumas about your father leaving the family will be actualized. Or maybe you'll understand the situation. Accept a new experience from your father. Find a new family member. In general, it could be anything. Think for yourself, decide for yourself.
It's up to you and only you. If you start communicating with him, it can have a big impact on the rest of your life. It can even turn your life upside down. Don't underestimate the situation. I partially agree with Lily White. What can he give you? If he gives you an apartment, that's more or less. More likely he's going to rub it in, and then get on your nerves. And all of your childhood traumas about your father leaving the family will be actualized. Or maybe you'll understand the situation. Accept a new experience from your father. Find a new family member. In general, it could be anything. Think for yourself, decide for yourself.
Response from 0[+++++]
You could talk to him once in a while. If he is officially your father and paid child support, he can still demand it from you now.
You could talk to him once in a while. If he is officially your father and paid child support, he can still demand it from you now.
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Or maybe he's come to his senses.
Or maybe he's come to his senses.
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Now he wants money, care and support-- that's devious, not demented.
Now he wants money, care and support-- that's devious, not demented.
Response from 0[+++++]
If you want to communicate, communicate. If you want to send him away, send him away. You're of age, you should make your own decisions.
If you want to communicate, communicate. If you want to send him away, send him away. You're of age, you should make your own decisions.